Best Sex Books (Nonfiction): The 30 BEST Books About Sex

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Sex Matters.

Sex matters. It’s why we’re here. It’s how we multiply. It permeates our thoughts and our actions and our cultures. It plays a main role in many of the highest and lowest emotions and experiences in our lives.

And yet it’s a topic we don’t really think, learn and talk about nearly enough.

So here are 30 of the best nonfiction sex books ever written.

They’ll surprise you. They’ll entertain you. But most of all, they’ll teach you new things about one of humanities most pervasive past-times that you may have never even thought about or guessed.

And THAT matters. Because whoever you are, whatever you believe and whatever you think (or refuse to think) about sex – that’s your decision. And the best way to make great decisions starts with gathering the best knowledge you can.

The 30 BEST Sex Books Ever Written

Why these best sex books and not others? The best sex books below are the top picks from my master database, ranked by a combination of Goodreads rating and number of Goodreads reviews. The goal is to give a good balance of what’s most loved and what’s most popular.

Think something’s missing? Email me and I’ll add it to the next round of updates. I honestly love hearing from you so, please, do get in touch!

Books 1-10: The 10 Best Sex Books of All Time

The top 10 best sex books of all time are…

1. Come as You Are – Emily Nagoski

The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life

Published 2015 // 400 pages // Rated 4.3 over 28,000 reviews on Goodreads

2. Ace – Angela Chen

What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

Published 2020 // 210 pages // Rated 4.4 over 4,600 reviews on Goodreads

3. More Than Two – Franklin Veaux

A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory

Published 2014 // 480 pages // Rated 4.3 over 3,200 reviews on Goodreads

4. Yes Means Yes! – Jaclyn Friedman

Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape

Published 2008 // 361 pages // Rated 4.2 over 5,100 reviews on Goodreads

5. Boys & Sex – Peggy Orenstein

Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity

Published 2020 // 293 pages // Rated 4.2 over 4,200 reviews on Goodreads

6. Mating in Captivity – Esther Perel

Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic

Published 2006 // 272 pages // Rated 4.1 over 25,600 reviews on Goodreads

7. Guide to Getting It On! – Paul Joannides

Published 1996 // 854 pages // Rated 4.3 over 2,500 reviews on Goodreads

8. The Right to Sex – Amia Srinivasan

Feminism in the Twenty-First Century

Published 2021 // 304 pages // Rated 4.3 over 1,200 reviews on Goodreads

9. Woman – Natalie Angier

An Intimate Geography

Published 1999 // 464 pages // Rated 4.1 over 4,300 reviews on Goodreads

10. She Comes First – Ian Kerner

The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

Published 2004 // 228 pages // Rated 4.1 over 6,700 reviews on Goodreads

Books 11-30: 20 Good Sex Books to Read Next

Here are the next 20 best sex books from my database…

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