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Who Is Melody Beattie?
Melody Beattie (Born July 2, 1948) is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles. Her international bestselling book, Codependent No More, introduced the world to the term “codependency” in 1986.
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The Best Melody Beattie Books of All Time
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Best Melody Beattie Quotes
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"Worrying about people and problems doesn't help. It doesn't solve problems, it doesn't help other people, and it doesn't help us. It is wasted energy."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"We don’t have to take rejection as a reflection of our self-worth. If somebody who is important (or even someone unimportant) to you rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as much as you would be if you had not been rejected. Feel any feelings that go with rejection; talk about your thoughts; but don’t forfeit your self-esteem to another’s disapproval or rejection of who you are or what you have done. Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay. If you have done something inappropriate or you need to solve a problem or change a behavior, then take appropriate steps to take care of yourself. But don’t reject yourself, and don’t give so much power to other people’s rejection of you. It isn’t necessary"- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"Ever since people first existed, they have been doing all the things we label "codependent." They have worried themselves sick about other people. They have tried to help in ways that didn't help. They have said yes when they meant no. They have tried to make other people see things their way. They have bent over backwards avoiding hurting people's feelings and, in so doing, have hurt themselves. They have been afraid to trust their feelings. They have believed lies and then felt betrayed. They have wanted to get even and punish others. They have felt so angry they wanted to kill. They have struggled for their rights while other people said they didn't have any. They have worn sackcloth because they didn't believe they deserved silk."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"We don’t have to take things so personally. We take things to heart that we have no business taking to heart. For instance, saying “If you loved me you wouldn’t drink” to an alcoholic makes as much sense as saying “If you loved me, you wouldn’t cough” to someone who has pneumonia. Pneumonia victims will cough until they get appropriate treatment for their illness. Alcoholics will drink until they get the same. When people with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they don’t love you—they are saying they don’t love themselves."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"Most codependents are obsessed with other people."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"It’s okay to feel afraid of closeness and love, but it’s also okay to allow ourselves to love and feel close to people."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"I believe we codependents need to be gentle, loving, and forgiving with ourselves before we can expect to forgive others."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"Martyrdom can interfere with our ability to feel good long after the alcoholic has stopped helping us feel miserable."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"Suffering can become habitual, but so can enjoying life and being good to ourselves. Try it."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"Codependents need boundaries. We need to set limits on what we shall do to and for people. We need to set limits on what we will allow people to do to and for us."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"Just keep doing the things [you] know [you] need to do. It will get better. Don’t stop taking care of [you] no matter what happens."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"The only difference between codependents and the rest of the world is that the other people don’t pick on themselves for being who they are."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"We need to be good to ourselves. We need to be compassionate and kind to ourselves. We need to refuse to enter into an antagonistic relationship with ourselves."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
"Acceptance is the ultimate paradox: we cannot change who we are until we accept ourselves the way we are."- Melody Beattie, Codependent No More
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